Full of articles on how to relate to other people & how to improve yourself. how to stand a relationship, what you need to do, and what not to do in any case. I want to raise a very important question: what about a good attitude towards myself? To myself, including.
Why do we think so much about others, but often forget to take care of ourselves? Someone will say yes, but is that not egoism? No friends, this is not selfishness. This is a completely, completely different matter, and now I will explain why this is an important issue for your inner well-being. And how will this affect your relationship with others?
Ways to Improve Yourself
What does it mean – “A good attitude to oneself”? This means appreciating yourself as a person, accepting and respecting your strengths and weaknesses. I don’t know about you, but such beautiful words tell me nothing. I absolutely do not understand how to do this in practice, even if, for example, I know my weaknesses 🙂 It is always important for me to know simple and specific ways. I want to suggest them to you to try below.
Good Attitude to Yourself: Why and Why
Imagine this situation: there are 2 children’s football teams. Each team has its own coach. One coach – tough, harsh, does not like wards, doesn’t build good relations with them, he wanted to spit on relations, in general. If there are errors in the game, you will receive the first number. No respect for the person or something. Presented? Do you think this team plays well? It happens in different ways. And how do you think the kids-players feel? Do they experience joy and satisfaction from participating in a team? Are they pleased to be there? It is clear that the answer is, of course, no, it’s unpleasant and they feel bad.
And now the second coach in another team. He is fair, but not cruel. He respects the players and tries to build a good relationship with them. If there are errors, he notes them and teaches how to avoid another time. He does not scold children, he teaches them. If there are achievements or something happened – he also notes and praises. Presented? How does this team play? True, it can be good, but maybe bad. How do players feel? It is clear that it is not at all like in that team. They feel morally much better.
You will play in both cases, either good or bad, but you will feel completely different. Choose you.
Many conclusions can be drawn from this example, but the main idea is as follows: be the second trainer in relation to yourself. Which is respectful, generally positive, appreciates, interested and protects. Mistakes notes, and praises for achievements.
What affects a good attitude towards yourself?
In fact, not only to find your inner world. Although this is a very significant part of your life. If you change your attitude towards yourself towards acceptance and respect, you will most likely notice improvements here too:
- You will better understand what you need, what you want, you can make something a priority if necessary. This will increase the chances that you will get what you want or need.
- You will be better able to build relationships with other people: firstly, because you have already successfully practised yourself, and secondly because it attracts others.
And also your inner strength, which appears precisely on the basis of a good relationship with yourself.
- A positive attitude towards oneself as a strategy, all the time struggling with negative deep beliefs about one’s own non-value, helplessness and futility.
- This affects the well-being, both emotional and physical. And try to argue with that! At least take the previous negative beliefs – with them there is a chance to develop depression or anxiety disorder. How beliefs and depression are related.
I think you will agree that of course, this is not selfishness at all. And that behaving in this way is behaviour worthy of respect, which is unlikely to lead to any undesirable consequences.
How to start treating yourself well
Treat what you read as possible life values that you can take for yourself on an ongoing basis. Such life values are something that a person tries to follow. This approach is more likely to ensure that you succeed.
- Take care of your basic needs: what to eat, what to drink, when to sleep, and so on. Do not ignore if you want to eat cheese, not sausages. Take care of the daily routine. Do not forget about other manifestations of caring for your body: from brushing your teeth to visiting the right doctors.
- Prefer – or at least do not forget about activities that bring joy and pleasure, in a word, positive emotions. Try as much as possible, well, at least several times a week, give yourself a few minutes. Someone needs to take a bath for this, someone to take a walk, chat with a girlfriend, make a hair mask, sit alone, etc. More options for those who are too lazy to think 🙂
- To be interested in your own inner world: ask yourself what I feel, what I think and most importantly, why so?
- Be yourself the best friend. This means: consult with yourself. Trust your opinion. Being the one you can rely on (yourself). Want to make a decision? Ask: “What do I think about this? What do I feel? Why is that?” – and trust yourself. In the end, you are the only one who is next to you 24 hours a day, constantly. Why have someone unreliable next to you, or, God forbid, an enemy at all?
- To create several habits of “self-love” – for example, to thank yourself for something, to celebrate something good that has been done, to praise for the little things that happened. For example, today I wrote 2 texts and one big plan. It is very good.
- Learning to forgive yourself first. Then learn how to forgive others. So, do not cut yourself, as in fairy tales a bad wife saws her husband. Do not return to the question again and again. Did something wrong? Well, it happens, another time I’ll try to avoid this error. Just learn your weaknesses and strengths, and accept the whole.
- Stop being compared to other people. One of the most obsessive and unpleasant habits with negative consequences. This is especially true for lovers of social media, so there is something to compare more than enough. Compared with someone not for the better for themselves? Correct this mistake by reminding yourself that comparing with others is pointless and not good for your health. It’s better to remember which path you took for the better. Or what you have (instead of thinking about what you don’t have).
